Carmella Cann's BLOG

The city of nasty needs the naked cowboy as mayor! I mean lets get serious, if California has Arnold Schwarzenegger, as their governor. Then, we need a star on the east coast as well. I mean, should I vote for Michael Bloomberg, who overrode the will of the people? Al Sharpton? LOL It’s the naked cowboy for me. New York City should be Clothing Optional!

After so many propositions, one of my many Indian boyfriends Sonja just proposed. Since I’m a little bit slow, I just found out New York State already actually recognizes same-sex marriage to some extent. Thousands of same sex couples are already officially married in NY, but only because they had their weddings in Canada or Boston.

It sounds like one of the few intelligent voices in this debate is NY City Comptroller Bill Thompson, who said the state is loosing over two hundred million dollars a year which our NY economy desperately needs.

Furthermore, some senators are so threatened by gay marriage- like if it were Chicken Pox! When the truth is if they were secure with in themselves and their own marriage, they just wouldn’t give a damn. The high mucky mucks in the state senate should just come out of the closet. It’s time Lady Liberty joined the other states such as: Massachusetts, Vermont, Connecticut, and New Hampshire in passing the same-sex marriage bill. So please contact your local state senator and ask not what you can do for them, but what they can do for you. Let them know how they can better serve you by voting YES to the NY gay marriage bill.

Yours,

Carmella

I wish for world piece, marriage equality, and immigration reform. I’m getting tired of running back and forth across the borders in these heals.

The greatest pleasure is in giving, so I plan on giving one of my Mexican boyfriends much pleasure, and in return he will give me a homemade facial.

I know who I would love to jump out of my cake. Johnny Depp. I’ll make sure he gets a big piece of Carmella’s can- I mean, cake.

Hi Dolls,

Yes, I am back and running for the second season of Rupaul’s Drag Race. Don’t forget to vote for me at www.rupaulcasting.com/people/carmellacann. As your New York City Drag Diva, I am fabulous, attention starved, and promise a fun time with lots of drama and scandal. My engine is hot to trot!!! Rrrrrrmmmmmmmmmmmm

Meow!
Carmella Cann

I was recently asked to host a Catholic Valentine’s Day Mixer. I’ve decided to think about my roots and the scriptures.

I was raised a Roman Catholic. Most of my adult life has been the conflict of my conditioned faith and my personal beliefs. As someone recovering from organized religion, but yet spiritual. I know what your thinking right about now, and yes, drag queens can be spiritual. I have struggled to find what truly defines me, as a spiritual being. I believe in a greater picture then a God. I believe in the power of humanity- kindness, compassion, and empathy.

Down in my bones, lies a man that feels all types of feelings such as happiness, sadness, hurt,and joy. I have stumbled to stand tall. As a human culture, we constantly need to separate ourselves with labels such as: Catholic, Jewish, White, Black, Man, Women, Gay, Straight, ext. I have learned that at the root of every man and women, we are more alike then disalike. We all have “wine” flowing through our veins and junk in our trunk, also known as social baggage. We are all part of this world just wanting to be loved. Some may feel deserving and some may not, but in the end of the day we are all children of a higher being.

I think the most important challenge for me has been to learn forgiveness. That sometimes people hurt you, and don’t even realize that they have, for their own issues of course. I believe in karma, and that what we dish, we will get. Even if it is just to teach us something. I have come full circle in many area’s of my life. Everything I have tried to run away from, in then end has caught up with me, and I have embraced it in truth and authenticity and come full circle. I am very thankful even for my darkest moments, for they have made me stronger and a fighter.

Valentine’s Day Mixer:

Saturday, February 18, from 8pm to 12 am, at Judson Memorial Church Gym, 55 Washington Square. $10.00 cover Great music and lots of refreshments;) Hosted by yours truly. Also, I hear it’s a mixer of Catholic and Jews. I have to see this.

As we approach Valentine’s Day, so many of my friends tell me how they are feeling lonely and wish they could find someone to connect to. Through most of my adulthood, I have been hearing people complain about their dating situation or their relationships. Moreover, since I am featured in a book called “Straight Talk With Gay Guys” by Daylle Deanna Schwartz (Gay mens dating advice to straight women). I have decided to give out some dating tips for 2007’s Valentine’s Day.

A few dating tips and things to keep in mind:

First, If you are looking for external things, a man will never complete you. I am a firm believer in you need to complete yourself first, in order to find a healthy relationship. Above all work on yourself.

Second, Slow and steady wins the race. When meeting someone just date and take it slow. A lot of times people tend to find someone they connect with, and start seeing them constantly. This can be overwhelming for some. There is no reason to rush anything. If it is ment to be, it will be. So just take your time to find out about someone and enjoy the ride.

Third, keep the conversations light in the begining. When you go on your first few dates, it is just about getting to know someone. Many people make the mistake of getting very heavy conversationally, and that can be scary to some. Let it have a natural progression.

Forth, don’t try to change anyone or believe that they will ever change. This is a control issue. If you find something out about someone that botheres you. Keep in mind that this person will not change, unless they are working on them selves and want to. You need to either accept it, or move on. If it bothers you to the point that you can not accept it, then just move on. Remember, the only person we have control over is ourselves.

Fitfh, the key foundations to any relationship are: Communication- talk with the person about your feelings, trust, loyalty, respect, No judgements, and most importantly listen.

Sixth, and most important. Just be yourself. There is no need to put on a show for anyone, or to try to impress them. Just remember that you are OK, the way you are. The more you work on yourself, you will feel deserving and relize exactly what you have to offer someone. This is spiritual enlightenment.

Good luck and be happy!

Xo,

Carmie

PS Pick up a copy of “Straight Talk With Gay Guys” By Dally Deanna Schwartz at any Barnes and Noble, Target, and Amazon.com. Coming in February 14, 2007. Other people included in the book are: Michael Musto, Kevin Aviance, Hedda Lettuce, Mario Cantone, and many more.

In todays modern age it is hard for me to find people that I respect and are inspired by. I was just up in this late hour watching Oprah. For she is one of the few people left in the public eye that I personally respect and look up too. She is a women that lives in truth, is introspective, takes action, and takes responsibility for her actions. She has truly come along way in her life and career.

Since I personally believe that life is a work in progress. Moreover, as someone introspective myself, that has made many mistakes in my life’s journey. I can say that, I take full responsibility and own my own flaws and success. I have found that it is important to confront things head on and not run away from them, as painful as they may be. Sometimes one has to go through the fire to reach salvation, and take an action to create change. This is how one evolves. We can be our worst enemy. Half the time it is our fear, ego, or pride that keeps us from truly experiencing the miracle of life’s happiness.

Some thing I have learned to this day. Is that my journey as person and artist has been to find out what I like and dislike. Most important, Who I am and what I am about. The more I work on myself, the more I understand myself. The pursuit of happiness is granted in the U.S. Constitution, but not given. It is the individual self that defines happiness and works on achieving it!

May we all be true to our selves and find happiness in the end.

Carmella

It is 2007 and time for new goals. I usually like to start them with ringing in a new birthday year, but this year I am going to start them with the start of the new calender year.

As I look back into 2006, I am very thankful for what I have learned about myself and the projects that I was fortunate to be part of. The goal I am the most proud of is having graduated from Baruch, for my education has shaped me and prepared me to face and understand the world around me. I am also very thankful to having had the string of good luck in booking much TV work this year. As I say Good Bye to old relationships and prepare myself for new ones, for everyone who has walked through my life this year has taught me something about myself or life that I continue to carry with me.

I only hope 2007 can be as rewarding to me as 2006. I feel as though this is a fresh start for new relationships with authentic people and a new chapter in my career. I also wish the best success to you in 2007.

Happy New Year!

Carmella